What are you fighting for? Okay travelers this one might get a little deep for ya so if you're looking for a fun read you might wanna find a different post.


On the latest episode of Grey's Anatomy Christina Yang (sandra oh) raised the question "What am I fighting for?"

Just for some back story: Christina is a heart surgeon and it is also her passion. She was training under one of the best cardiac specialists in the country but due a broken engagement (her own) he left and his replacement just really didn't like her and shut her out every chance she got. So in the long run (in this case 2 whole seasons) Christina was just working a job and not building her career. When the hospital had to merge with its competitor doctors were fighting to keep their jobs and Christina found herself fighting, pretty severely, for things she never even cared about. And it was when she lost the battle that she finally asked "What am I fighting for?"

Travelers if you wanna talk about light bulb...even as I type this I am sitting in my car stuffed with a good 80% of my belongings, locked out of an apt where I sleep on the couch.

I was in this exact same spot 3 years ago in Atlanta where I also fought until financially I just couldn't handle the cost of the war. So after watching Grey's and sitting in my car locked out I had to ask myself "what am I fighting for?" I have a family that loves me and I can go home to them without any judgment or love lost. However I will say that this time I think there is a clearer vision to my journey. That the motivators for its existence are a lot more justifiable than when I moved to Atlanta. But there are times, especially like tonight when I look at my car with all my stuff, the couch that I sleep on, and my bank account and ask "What am I fighting for?"

Travelers its okay to ask that question. But also ask are you working a job, or building a career? If its the latter then your fight is justifiable. If it is the former take a pit stop and redirect your route when you have a clearer sense of your Point B.

I have to remember, I have my first position in the Industry, I just haven't started yet and even if that falls through, which it won't (optimism) I'm still tutoring and can make just enough money to gas up the Black Thunder and drive on home.

What am I fighting for? A career in the fashion industry that allows me to use both my degrees in International Business and Product Development. I really like both Branding and Production and Sourcing so we shall see but despite what it looks like on the surface I think I'm doing the right thing.

Happy Travels

"One Step Forward, Just Glance Back. No Fear, Just DIVA!"

Afternoon Travelers! Over the course of a year I have accumulated a few articles that I wanted to blog about but never had the time to do. Well...now I do and I am ready to share my opinions on how they can be relevant to your journey. So stay tuned!

Happy Travels

Heloooo travelers! I am now an official Alum of FIDM and am ready to do some revamping to this here blog. We have a lot of catching up to do and I want to make sure that I hit all the important landmarks along my journey in hopes of aiding you along yours. There are three very important lessons I have learned in the last month that I think can help everyone.

1.) Prioritize with honesty

2.) Take time to enjoy your loved ones (rocking chair)

3.) Patience is a virtue (don't punish yourself)

Prioritize with Honesty:

There is a saying "You can't be all things to all people" and I have learned that you can't be all things to yourself. On one too many occasions during my time at FIDM I tried to be all things to all people. A student, RA, intern, friend, Networking Guru, speaker, you name it, but the #1 thing that fell off was my blog. I don't like that. But I had to be honest about spreading myself thin.

Travelers when you are going after a dream make sure that you prioritize with honesty. I wanted to be great at all of the above but not at the risk of my grades or relationship with my teachers. When both working a 9-5 and building a business one must be honest about where their time and money is most effectively spent in order to achieve that dream. (Great article I read about all this coming soon!)

Steps to take: Make a list and divide it into Have To and Want To. In the Have To pile place things like Homework, 9-5, and financial obligations. In the Want To pile place the things that you desire to do and may help make your dream a reality, but is not a necessity to your everyday life ie Fashion Week Mixers, Starting a new blog, or restyling your wardrobe. Assess the list. Is it honest? Great! Once you get a handle on the Have To's add the Want To's one by one to build a more balanced foundation for your dreams.

Take Time to Enjoy Your Loved Ones (Rocking Chair)

Right after graduation I was able to spend two weeks at home in Ohio. Talk about a great time! But when I first made it to Akron to spend time with my aunt I had nothing to do!!! Try going from staying up well past midnight working on projects then waking up at 6:30a to finish that same project to having not one thing due. I lost my mind! I kept looking for little projects something to work on something to complete. My aunt asked me "Why are you trying to take away your own peace?" Why was I trying to take away my own peace? So travelers I sat on her deck in a rocking chair with my knitting needles and proceeded to make my Nana a hat. It was the best feeling in the world.

When building your dream into a reality it can take so much of your time that if there is ever a period of rest, we tend to miss them because of the simple fact we are so used to being busy. Trust me nothing is healthier for your dream than a moment of still clarity. When I took that time of peace the result was a hat that made my Nana cry (in a good way). She is 89 years old and I have no idea how many more hats I will ever have the time to make her if any, and in that moment with my mother, aunt, uncle, and dog Camron :-) around, I was able to create a memory for my family that only propels my dream, it didn't take away from the building of it.

Patience is a Virtue (Don't Punish Yourself)

We expect our dreams to have a 2 week manifestation when sometimes it takes years to see your dreams come to fruition. Life can get in the way of building your dreams but as long as you have your Have and Want To's in order and you are diligently working towards that take a look back at where you first started and review what you have accomplished to date. For example I want a career in the Fashion Industry. For me that meant getting a degree in Merchandise Product Development from FIDM. I knew that would be 1 year of my life so I can't be upset that I'm not the Corporate Merchandiser of BCBG Max Azria by the time I turned 26.

Know what it takes to build your dream and be realistic about the time it takes to achieve each step to building your goal and track your Mile Markers. I'm gong to take more time on this blog to develop that section of this blog to help my travelers with patience.

Okay okay I know I just got back but I have some revamping of the blog I really want to do (I just found I can blog from my BlackBerry). So I'm going to take even more time off to review a few blogs that I truly respect and love and the love attention and detail their owners give them and show that same love.

I have big plans for baby and as you know nobody sits baby in the corner!

Leave a Diva Stamp and let me know what you think! I really want to hear from you. The plan is to grow the readership in 2010, but I know that's up to me and then spreading the word from you.

Happy Travels,

One Step Forward, Just Glance Back. No Fear, Just DIVA!

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